highly sensitive, strength, vulnerability, purpose

My whole life I’ve been told, and thought, I was ‘too sensitive’.  I wished I could grow a thinker skin and not feel things so deeply.  Decisions were painstakingly hard to make.  I’d over-think for hours about things I’d said that might have been misinterpreted, I cared far too much about what other people thought.  Criticism, and the fear of it, would paralyse me and I’d bat off compliments like a tennis pro.

Then last year in my pursuit to ‘find myself’ and create the life I’ve been dreaming of for many years, I discovered that Sensitivity was actually a ‘thing’.  A trait found in 15-20% of the population.

Queue the Halle-fricking-luiah I’m not alone chorus!!

Admittedly at first I struggled to accept this apparent gift.  I’d just spend the past few years trying to ‘fix’ all these things that were wrong with me and now I was being told it was a blessing not a curse.  However, I’ve spent this past year learning to embrace and honour my sensitivity and I can now see it as the super power it really is!

3 ways to honour your Sensitive Super Power:

  • Accept it

We’re either accepting of something or resisting it.  If you’re resisting your sensitivity and see it as a curse, then this is how it will play out for you.  You’ll be a prisoner in your own sensitive cell.  However, when you accept it and see it as the strength it really is then this is how it will show up in the world for you.

‘Sensitive’ has become a negative term in today’s cut throat world, it’s no wonder we have tried to hide our sensitivity and ‘fit in’, even though we feel like the proverbial sore thumb.  Personally I prefer the term perceptive.  Sensitive people are extremely perceptive.  We see the sideways glance that others miss, we feel the energy behind the words being spoken, we spot the manipulative co-worker who everyone seems to love but we see straight through their games, and it’s for this reason we know we’re different and until you realise why you may feel like you’re the only one, like something is wrong with you.  It’s not, everything you feel and sense is real.

When you accept your sensitivity and begin to embrace it as the gift it is it will completely transform your life and your perception of yourself but to accept it you have to honour it by nurturing it properly.

  • Nurture it

As a sensitive person you’re probably dealing with some kind of health issue right now, perhaps even anxiety or depression, and if you aren’t already nurturing yourself you most likely feel exhausted.  This is because you have a highly sensitised nervous system, this is what distinguishes you from the other 80-85% of the population, that and the fact that your brain is literally wired up differently.

You absorb energy from your environment, this includes people’s emotions.  Have you ever wondered why you can’t cope in busy crowds or shopping centres like a ‘normal’ person?  It’s because you’re literally soaking energy up like a sponge from every person around you and are easily overwhelmed by the noise and bright lights.  This is where the feeling of being cursed comes in but it’s all about learning to fill yourself up first and protect your energy field.

When sensitive people become overwhelmed and exhausted we just need to retreat and aren’t able to perceive or care for other’s needs in our usual way; we can become insensitive.

Self-care is essential for sensitive people.  It’s essential for everyone but 10 times more for Sensitive’s.  Any kind of energy clearing techniques are great to include daily, as are Epsom salt baths, grounding exercises, gentle exercise such as yoga or walking and plenty of alone time to allow your deep thinking mind to process.

When you accept your sensitivity and nurture it in appropriate ways then it becomes a true gift and you can begin to…

  • Use it

Feeling things deeply and being so perceptive and intuitive is your greatest strength, and when used properly you will begin to see just why this is the biggest gift you have to offer the world.

If being vulnerable and showing your sensitive side to the world seems scary, I highly recommend reading Rising Strong by Brené Brown, she’s a researcher on vulnerability and shame and her work is life changing.  To fully understand your sensitivity I also recommend reading The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron and The Highly-Intuitive Person by Heidi Sawyer.

When you understand the trait and the gifts it brings it makes using this super power in the world so much easier.

I’ve been drawn to life coaching for many years but never felt good enough to do it and was crippled by self-doubt.  But accepting and nurturing my sensitivity has allowed me to pursue this long held dream and I finally feel like I have found my place in the world.  My desire to serve others, find my purpose and use my unique gifts, have all been moulded into one through my coaching.

Now all those ‘weaknesses’ have become my biggest strength and I’m able to help others make a real difference in their lives.   If you’ve read this far it’s probably because you’re highly sensitive too so I urge you to start bringing your sensitive nature into all that you do, don’t hide from it, embrace it, wear it like a badge of honour.  Not everyone will get you, who cares, be proud of who you’re because one day soon the world is going to need you to shine your light a whole lot brighter.

Are you ready to transform your life?

If you’re a sensitive soul and are currently looking to make changes in any area of your life I would love to help guide you on your journey.  Inspiring women to go for their dreams, discover their purpose and fulfil their highest potential is what I live for!  It’s all I’ve ever wanted to do and now I’m doing it I never want to stop.

If you would like to have a Free 20 minute chat to see how I can help you make those changes then I would love to connect with you.  The call will help highlight the areas you need to focus on the most and give us an opportunity to see if coaching is something you would be interested in and if we’re a good fit to work together.

You can book your free connection call here

With love

Vicky x